Monday, June 2, 2014

They Will Always Be Our Babies


There's nothing stronger than the bond between a mother and her child. The maternal instinct to want to help and protect that child. Keep them from the harm in the world. Teach them right and wrong, watch them grow, letting them make their mistakes and hopefully learn from them along the way. Giving advice to them as they journey to adulthood. Telling them they can't do anything you haven't already done when you were their age. Moms know everything!!! 

They say "It takes a village to raise a child" meaning that the work of  raising a child can't be done alone; rather, an entire community participates in some way. Family immediate and extended, close friends, siblings, other children they play with, and educators with many resources. I have always believed that if you tell a child not to do something they are going to do it. I always told my kids why I thought they shouldn't do something along with the consequences of them doing it. You always want to be there to help them and make their hurt or problems go away, when they do wrong, but sometimes you have to let them learn the hard way. Tough love.    

As they become adults and parents of their own the feeling of wanting to protect them is still strong. It never goes away. Seeing them face adult problems with life, you want to run to the rescue and solve the problem for them so they don't suffer.  Don't!! This is how they learn and pass that knowledge on to their children. Be there to listen and offer advice. Hold them, tell them how much you love them, tell them your thoughts and ideas, tell them again you love them and your sorry they are going through whatever it is.  There has been no greater joy than watching my children grow up, through the good and the bad, always being there when they needed me and when they didn't. Watching them raise their own children the way I raised them. Knowing they did remember some things I taught them and are now passing it on to the next generation.

Even at the ages of 29, 23, and 21 they will always be my babies!!!

2 comments:

  1. My babies turn 21 in 2 months, and I cant believe that we are already here. I was stunned when they turned 18, because, even though you know that day is coming, you are never prepared for it at all. Even now... where did all the time go???

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